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About preachersnob

Daphene, 25, is a graduate of the University of Dayton and currently finishing her last year of the MPA program. She and her husband, Alex, are active members of Macedonia Missionary Baptist Church in Dayton, OH, under the leadership of Rev. Jamison D.H. Hunter. The daughter of Rev. Dr. Robert E. Baines Jr and Mrs. Daphene Baines, she has been active in the Black Baptist Church all of her life. "While worship is great, there's nothing greater than to hear God's voice in a sermon! I love sharing this with others and I hope this site is helpful" - Daphene

My Fresh Start


Last night, my awesome pastor, Dr. Jamison Hunter, preached out of Genesis 50:20. This text is familiar to most of us. It is the recount of Joseph’s words to his brothers when they came to him. Although they left him for dead years ago and he had to, as a result of their betrayal, go into slavery and later prison, he forgave them and then gave the powerful statement that  many of us recite to our enemies and situations: “As for you, you meant evil against me, but God meant if for good…” (KJV)

Dr. Hunter opened my eyes last night to the reality of grudges I hadn’t realized I was still holding on to. Oftentimes, I feel that my saying “I forgive you” is enough in situations; especially if I feel I was wronged. However, to forgive is to go back as if it never existed. Admittedly, I truly struggle with this idea.

2013 truly presented multiple opportunities for me to practice true forgiveness like Joseph showed his brothers. Unfortunately, I did not use every opportunity to do right. I realized that there are people that hurt me last year that I have “forgiven” but I still don’t talk to. With most of these people, I’ve made every effort to not be alone with them, I go out of my way to avoid them, and change the conversation if they are brought up. I never truly saw a problem with this until I actually heard what I was doing out loud. I figured I had forgiven them and couldn’t forget about it, so since I can’t forget about what they did, it’s best I not interact with them….HOW IMMATURE IS THAT?!

We were challenged to 1.) Deal with the pain and 2.) Deal with the process….but it hurts!

I truly believe that the pain of forgiveness has been what has hindered me from growth in certain areas and from truly moving into new situations afresh. If I got hurt and noted that someone’s actions hurt me and their reply was “oh, Daphene, wow! I had no idea that hurt you. I’m so sorry…how can I make it better?” then I could totally forgive in its truest sense. However, that’s not how it goes and it’s not how it’s gone at all.

True forgiveness is having someone you love and trust hurt you and acknowledge that they hurt you and that they meant to hurt you, but you still forgive them and love them. True forgiveness is having a group of people scandalize your name, and instead of you running their names through the mud, you smile at them, hug them, and share kindness and love when you see them in spite. True forgiveness requires that we actually model our lives after Christ. 

Christ shows us true forgiveness.  He gives us opportunity after opportunity, but we continue to hurt Him. We lie, we cheat, we sin…but He continues to love us. After we wronged Him and with the knowledge that those who would be born centuries later would still wrong Him, Christ chose to pay the ultimate debt for us.

We owed our lives because of our mess, and He repaid it with His life…and then we still mess up, but He’s still madly in love with us and continues to comfort us, protect us, give us favor, peace, and joy….now THAT’S TRUE FORGIVENESS.

In 2013, I messed up with forgiveness. I chose to be bitter based on some ridiculously self-righteous pretense that I deserved to be treated better when in actuality, I deserve to be dead; when in actuality, I deserve to have been ruined by the lies that were told on me last year; when in actuality, I deserve to be friendless because of some of the stupid things I did last year; when in actuality I should be getting drunk, high, or out sleeping with someone to deal with the confusion in my life….I got what I got, not necessarily what I felt I deserved, but what I got. There’s nothing I can do to change what occurred in the past by someone else or myself, but I can change how I react now.

Holding grudges from 2013 is the perfect recipe for ruining God’s opened doors for me in 2014, and I will not let that happen.

Last night, after Watch Night, I took a step in the direction of forgiveness, and I hope you all will too. From today on, chose to love others with the love of Christ – which includes showing true forgiveness. Forgive like your life depended on it….the truth is, our quality of life does. Grudges are weight. We can’t operate with grudges, so let them go.

Happy New Year everyone! Thanks for reading. 🙂


“Grace and Glory” – Pas. Creflo Dollar


This past Sunday, my husband and I visited World Changers’ Church International in Atlanta, GA, and were dumbfounded. I have never in my life been to a church as massive and full of the Lord as WCCI.

We had the privilege to sit under Pastor Dollar’s preaching this Sunday. Coming from Ephesians 6:10-12 he shared the following:
– The key to success in spiritual warfare is yielding to the power and might of God
– If we feed ourselves faith when we don’t need it we will have an abundance when we do need it
– We have to recognize spiritual battles when we face them
– We are facing an unseen enemy
– There are more here for you than against you
– We are not fighting for victory…we are fighting from victory.
– We have been victorious since we entered into relationship with Him
– we need to trust in Christ
– James 4:6-7 we have to be careful not to let our religious activities overshadow the glory of God.
– God will give more grace to the humble
– The devil runs from he who submits to Gods favor over his own abilities and efforts
– I Peter 5:5-8 due season always comes: it’s not if but when
– Not every Christian is devourable!! Of Satan could devour everyone, he would haven’t had to seek…
– Grace enables us to win in spiritual warfare
– II Cor 12:8-9
– In order to be strong in His Strength, we have to be made weak in our own
– The devil will try to convince us that we are unqualified for the new covenant
– The only way the devil can succeed is if we try to qualify for what Jesus gave us with what we’ve done
– Legalism makes us more sin conscious and blocks the grace of God (Lk. 18:9-14)

“Putting God Back in the Church”


Recently, the condition and position of the Church has come into conversation, so I went back to review notes I took from some of my all-star preachers. Below are some sermons on godliness in the Church that were helpful to me. I pray you are blessed by these sermons.

“True Godliness” (Robert E. Baines, Jr.). I Cor.8:6-13

What is the measure of true godliness? True godliness is allowing the love of our brothers and sisters to trump my knowledge

I. God
– God is the source of all we have (salvation, health and strength, wealth, relationships).
– Can I handle being blessed? Do blessings decrease my praise?
– God is the aim of what we have, so all that we have should be directed to glorify God

II.  Love
– Our spiritual growth should revise our list of dos and don’ts.
– We need to measure up with the Word instead of the lies of church folk (most people aren’t as holy as they say).
– Although we are free from the law we still have rules.
– We have to love each other enough to put our freedom and knowledge on hold for our weaker brother.
– The strong have to flex to the weak not the other way around.
– We have to stop imposing our rules on others and start yielding.
– THERE IS A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WEAK AND WICKED and we need to pray for the wisdom to  discern between the two!
– We have to help the weak grow up or they will hold back the progress of the church’s growth.
– To “walk together in Christian love” require us to get up!
– We have too many professional Christian kindergarteners in the Church!!
– Ephesians 4:11-15 (our love has to start from the top and dwindle to the bottom)

“Sacrificial Praise” (Robert E. Baines, Jr.) Hebrews 13:15-16

I.  Jesus
– Whatever we do we have to do it through Jesus
– Worship is done by saved folk, so…how many people are in our church “worshipping” without being saved?
– We have to stop being novelty churches and become Word churches
II. Praise
– We are to praise Him and not our circumstances
– We ought to come to church to fly above the turbulence of our life’s issues in worship
– We need to give God anticipatory praise
– Our praise has to be continuous
– Am I a fair-weather worshipped or a crisis clapper? We shouldn’t be either
– I Cor. 14:26: Everybody should bring SOMETHING to build the fire of worship!
III. Ministry
– We have to be good for more than making noise during the worship service in Sundays
– We cannot afford to ignore all of the ministry opportunities available in the church

“Whose House? God’s House!” (Antione Hutchins) Mk. 11:12-18

– No matter who comes or goes, this is Gods house!
– If you can’t do it for Jesus, you won’t be able to do it for anyone else!
– Some of us need to learn how to be quiet and trust God. Just because He doesn’t address it right then doesn’t mean He won’t.
– Speaking before God shows immaturity
– Don’t speak when Gods talking…you won’t be able to hear
I. The Reputation of His House
– People should come to our church because the spirit of God is here not because of who’s here
II. The Responsibility of His House
– We have to take the focus off of people and put it on God
– We need to stop gossiping and start praying
III. The Reality of His House
– Has the church become a hideout for mess?!
– We cannot use worship as a substitution for the work that we have to do

Tears a Great Gift


“For Thou does not delight in sacrifice, otherwise I would give it; Thou art not pleased with burnt offering. The sacrifices of God are a broken spirit; A broken and a contrite heart, O God, Thou wilt not despise”(Psalm 51:16-17).

“Tears are designed to cleanse you”.

I cannot remember who told me this, but whoever it was thanks! For most of my life I’ve looked at crying as a sign of weakness as an indicator of our lack of faith in God…oh how wrong I’ve been. I have grown to the point that I readily cry and release. We cannot handle our problems alone.

When I cry I am crying to cleanse. Allowing God to take control. Telling Him “Lord I can’t…I won’t…please help!” or sometimes I cry out of joy saying “Lord I couldn’t…I didn’t…thanks!!”.

As Christians, we have to be careful about judging those who cry in worship, during prayer, when sharing their testimonies, etc. While we’re quick to speculate on what they must’ve done wrong that week to cry the way they are crying, they have made it a step above us because they have acknowledge how it’s supposed to be.

We should never rely on our own skills, intelligence, or experience to get to where God’s called us to. The moment we can do it alone, we’ve stepped out of our destiny. A mission that doesn’t require God is worthless!

As I journey through this season with God, He is testing me and shaping me. I have cried so hard, at times my eyes were burning, cheeks raw, nose sore, chest hurting…but you know what I wasn’t? I wasn’t heavy anymore! No longer worried! No longer upset! No longer in control…crying, weeping, surrendering to God are healthy steps in our relationship with Him.

We have to let go and letting go is hard. It requires humbling ourselves, acknowledging that we’re not smart enough, that we’re not strong enough, that we don’t have the skills, the connections or the capabilities…crying is an outward sign of surrender and submission.

Let’s work on surrendering to God. This is rough and tough…believe me, I KNOW! I am NeYo’s “Miss Independent”, but you know what…I’m not God’s Miss Independent, I’m His daughter! Just as I have to drop my pride and arrogance and desire for seperation when I need the help of my parents, I have to do this, even more so, with God. He loves us and He wants us to come to Him with EVERYTHING.

Do it. Let Him have your issues and let Him have your insecurities. Give Him your doubts, your fears, your broken dreams.  Let them go and let God take control. You’ll be amazed at the peace and joy they will immediately take the place of the pain and fear you were hoarding.

“Whenever you find tears in your eyes, especially unexpected tears,
it is well to pay the closest attention. They are not only telling the secret
of who you are, but more often than not of the mystery of where you have come from and are summoning you to where you should go next.”

(Frederick Buechner, Whistling in the Dark)

God Bless!

A Message to my Subscribers


Happy New Year!!

2011 brought an overwhelming amount of change in my life. As I continued to answer the call God placed on my life, a lot happened:

  1. I started to reevaluate the purpose of this blog. If I was to continue investing time and energy on this blog I needed it to be glorifying to God and edifying to my subscribers. The majority of people who read this blog seemed to be more interested in the commentary than the sermon notes, so I took note of that.
  2. I decided to accelerate my master’s degree program and buckle down on classes, so I can finish in 2012. I will graduate this year, 12/2012!!!!
  3. As I completed my first year of marriage, I started to reevaluate what it means to be married. I started to truly acknowledge the ministry of being a wife, and how this should be taken seriously and put first on your list of ministries. As my pastor reminds us often, God instituted marriage and family BEFORE He instituted the church! This is not to say that you should abandon ministry at your church to make your husband happy (or wife for my men out there). This was just something that I learned in my first year and I hope to share the lessons I learned with you all.
  4. I accepted my call to preach! After years of wrestling with it I finally gave in… God placed this calling on my life years ago, but I fought that thing hard. Not wanting to deal with the drama of being a woman preacher, I engulfed myself in ministries that were “appropriate” for me and hoped that He would just be happy with that…Nope! The call weighed heavier and heavier on my heart until I couldn’t take it anymore! I spoke with my pastor, parents, and mentors last year and announced my calling this past Sunday.

With this being said, I am refocusing the goal of this blog. I will share reflections, videos, articles, and scriptures that I believe will be beneficial to people that are hungry for God, like me. I pray this blog serves as a compliment to the Word God gives you daily. Please keep an eye out for my first blog…coming soon.

God Bless!


“When God Makes a Promise” – Rev. J.D.H. Hunter


Our Pastor, Rev. J.D.H. Hunter, came from Genesis 21:1-8 to preach a very timely and encouraging Mother’s Day sermon. Here are his sermon’s highlights:

–          When God makes a promise it is definite. It is what He’s determined will happen in our lives, not what we determined will happen in our lives.

  • Don’t confuse your ambitions with God’s promises. WE DON’T SPEAK FOR GOD.

–          God takes our blessings out the realm of impossibility and puts it into the realm of His reality.

  • …but we still have to deal the realities of now…
  • For God to bless us with the impossible, we need to improve our faith

–          God blesses us with impossible for us and through us

  • Are we capable of participating in a miracle?
  • To get the miracle, we have to hold the weight of it through the process

–          We are going through a pregnancy process involving conception, labor and delivery

  • Conception: Are we receiving what God’s planted in our lives for us?
  • Labor: This requires pain, sweat and blood.
    • What do you do when the medium for your process deteriorates while you what?
    • Do we have an Abraham mentality (If God said it…)?
  • Delivery: Can we endure the necessary process to deliver the conceptualized promises of God?
  • The God of promises is the God of the process.
    • He gives power to the participants.

–          When God makes a promise, remember:

  • When it Needs to Work, It Will
    • The situation doesn’t have to look good, but God will make it work at the right time (Sarah was getting older and her womb seemed to be too weak to hold the baby, but God made her womb and body strong and healthy enough to carry the promised son)
    • You’re Not Going to Die in the Process
      • God ensures us we’ll see our promise in the reality!! (Why put us through the pain of the process to not see it come to fruition?)
      • We need someone to encourage us through the process

–    Are you surrounded by faith builders or faith blockers?

  • If God Says It, That Settles It!